The Gift of Singleness

Okay, we have already taken a look at some of the negative attitudes that we can have towards being single and we recognize that we should adjust our attitudes and use this time of singleness to glorify God. One way to start down that path is to accept that being single is a gift and believe it or not, there are actually some ADVANTAGES to being single! Let's start by looking at 1 Corinthians 7:34-35:

"There is a difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit; that that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction."

You see, we are actually very blessed to have this period in life in which we aren't tied down in so many ways. We aren't torn in several directions by our obligations to our husbands, our kids, etc, etc. When we are young and single adults, for a brief time we live only for God. Talk about an opportunity to maximize your service!

Psalm 62:5
"My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him."

When we have time alone, we learn that God is the one who is always there and truly the one rock in our life that we can always depend on. We are never promised tomorrow and the people we love could be gone at any moment, but God is forever. When you are single, you have the freedom and time to spend alone with God and grow closer to him through prayer and study. I would encourage all of you young ladies out there to think of this time of singleness as a wonderful chance to grow in your closeness to God and to focus on Him instead of on pleasing men. Yes, there will be times of loneliness and yes, your heart will still long for that close relationship with a man. But it will be worth it to have the best kind of love there is; the love between our Creator and us. Cherish the time that you have rather than focusing on the things that you do not have! When we do this, we will open our lives up to joy and fruitfulness for God.

Isaiah 12:2-3
"Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and not be afraid: for the Lord Jehovah is my strength and my song; he also is become my salvation. Therefore with joy shall ye draw water out of the wells of salvation."

2 Peter 1:5-9
"And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; and to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; and to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ."

There is plenty of work out there for us to do, whatever stage of life we are in, and if we apply ourselves to serving God, then we will find that our life is one of abundance and grace.